Problems are part of life. That's reality and reality indeed bites. So whether you're a single person, a married one or a parent, one just cannot escape the problems that crop up from time to time.
But when situations become negative and your emotions tend to follow the negative path as well, it's time to snap out of it and go the other way. And what is the other way? The positive way, that is. Isn't it that when you tell some of your friends about your concerns in life, they would tell you to think positive and to believe that you will find solutions to your own problems.
True enough because having a positive outlook in life and doing the positive things do help. It is a great help, actually. In families, for example, parents should practice positive reinforcement as they try to discipline their children. This action is even recommended by family and marriage counselors because they believe this often leads to a positive outcome.
What positive reinforcement means is that as parents, it is not good to always point out the negative acts or behavior of your children. Instead of focusing on what they're doing wrong, why not suggest to them what they should do right. It's true that this can be a challenge at first especially for parents who are so used to giving negative comments every time their child makes a wrong move or misbehaves. This is called by family counselors and therapists as negative tracking. But when you are able to do it consistently, you'll find out later on its positive effect on yourself and your child as well.
In addition, do not fail to praise a child who displays good behavior. Some parents are quick to observe the negative acts of their children but before reacting, why not ask yourself first what positive action was done. It can be quite a challenge to do this but again, when you start practicing it the positive response will just come naturally.
A concern for many parents in this aspect is how to respond to the positive action of their child. This is an issue for those who have problems in communication skills. What happens then is that they give rather general feedback when a more specific message is called for. For instance you have observed that your older child helped put her younger sibling's toys into the basket or helped cleaned the table, the best way to comment is to praise those specific actions and tell your child that you're happy about what she did.
Family and marriage counseling can guide parents who may be having issues in instilling discipline to their children. With a professional as guidance counselor, parents who may not be aware of the proper ways to raise their kids will be better enlightened and will develop consistency in the discipline aspect.
Family counselors know where to look especially in a family with parents who are just too busy with work or business that they forget to spend quality time with their children at home. These parents often get to learn about the issues in their family only when their children are already showing negative behavior most of the time.
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